OH, NO!!! Engine trouble…

8543 miles of solo traveling since the end of May, and in the last week of my four-month road trip, I heard a clicking/rattling sound in my engine last Sunday.  Aaaaggghhh!!!!!

As a solo, non-mechanical, 61-year-old lady, this is my worst nightmare! I happened to be in Waco, Texas, where I knew NO-ONE.  My closest brother/mechanical friend was hundreds of miles away.

It sounded like something plastic was fluttering inside the engine. I pulled over at the next exit with a service station, fortunately just a mile down the road, and popped the hood.  I looked so smart as I peered into a complete mystery of an engine! No, actually I do know the main parts of the engine and can check the oil, add oil or washer fluid, etc. — the few basic things I know.  Well, everything LOOKED okay! Except for a few drips of clear fluid on a horizontal thing-a-ma-jig behind the battery which was dripping down behind the passenger front tire. But the liquid was clear and not smelly.

What lies behind the battery? Horizontal, thing-a-ma-jig. Some dripping liquid – could it just be AC condensation? Fingers crossed!

I texted my son and described the sound and the clear drips I saw. He texted back to check the oil.  This I can do! I grabbed a napkin from my van and proceeded to “oh so professionally” wipe down the dipstick, stick it back in the appropriate hole, and pull it out again to look at the measurement on the end – it was only half full!  How could this be? I had just stopped 3 days before in South Carolina and had a complete oil change that was due!  Was the oil leaking out?!?  What if the oil pressure dropped and the engine seized!?! What if I was stuck in the middle of Texas with no vehicle?!? Yes, these thoughts immediately flashed through my mind.

My son advised me (from New York) to add a couple quarts of oil and see how it sounded when the oil was full.  Fortunately, I had pulled over at a gas station with a little store (really, it’s not just for Dr. Pepper and Cheetos?)  They had oil.  I actually had a small funnel in the van which, ahem…I sometimes use when out hiking without a bathroom.  Now I would use it for its intended purpose! Go figure.

I added the 2 quarts of oil and after a few minutes, and a Dr. Pepper, I got back in the van and drove a few blocks.  Still fluttering sounds from the engine – crap! But the oil pressure gauge on the dashboard read that it was fine, so that was a relief.

Google Maps is my go-to for finding stuff, so I searched for local mechanics. Then I looked them up to see if there were reviews on their websites and how far away they were.  How blessed I was to find one just six blocks away with good reviews.  But it was Sunday!!!!!  Sundays may be great for church and stuff, but lousy for mechanical problems that need an expert!

Fortunately there was an inexpensive hotel just one block from the mechanic so I parked there for the night.  Four months on the road and this was the first hotel I used – really not happy as now I had lost my bragging rights! Oh well, it was pretty nice to take a hot shower, lay on a bed and watch TV, and play the “WHAT IF” game.

What is the “WHAT IF” game?  Something I do periodically as I travel, coming up with different scenarios and deciding how I would hypothetically handle them.  Keeps me sharp and thinking outside the box when there is not a crisis in front of me.  But now I was playing it FOR REALS!!!  What if the oil was actually leaking and I woke up in the morning to a big puddle under my van and a catastrophic repair was needed? What if it wasn’t the oil and they couldn’t find the problem? What if something else was broken that I couldn’t see? Okay, would I have to stay in Texas for a few days – which would mean I would lose my online job if I cancelled last minute.  Or would I need to rent a car or buy an airline ticket to Albuquerque and then come back in a week to pick up the van…if I could afford whatever repair was done? Or I could take a bus, but nah, that is too slow and I had classes to teach Tuesday night. Okay, then, what would I leave here in the van and what would I take with me? What if the old (1999) van had repairs needed that were more expensive than its value? Would I scrap this and buy another old van? So many questions….

After I lay on the bed and thought my way through various scenarios, I felt perfectly at peace.  No matter how this played out, I was still (relatively) in control and could handle whatever happened.  I had thought of many different ways this situation could go, and many different options for what I would do.  See, this is why I play the “WHAT IF” game…so when a crisis does arise, I can comfortably think my way through to good outcomes.

Long story short, the next morning I found no oil puddle under my van and the dipstick still read full.  A wonderful mechanic took a look at my van as soon as he opened on Monday morning.  The clear liquid was indeed condensation from the AC unit which I had been running all day in that Texas heat (whew – glad I was right!).  The mechanic listened and looked as I started the van for him and promptly saw that the serpentine belt was paper thin and ready to shred.  I probably would have lost it a few miles down the road if I had not stopped when I did!!!

One hour and $60 later, I was on the road with reassurance from the mechanic that all else looked good in my old van.  He was pretty impressed with how I had handled things, and was so kind.  If anyone is near Waco, see Discount Automotive down on Highway 6 south of Waco – Jimmy is a wonderful guy and a terrific mechanic.

With gratitude for all my blessings, and a peaceful heart, I continued on the last few days of my road trip.  I stopped in Roswell, New Mexico, to see aliens – such fun!

Having a drink with the Aliens in Roswell, NM
Area 51 – yup, I entered!
Alien autopsy in Roswell, NM

Before I left Roswell, I walked to the public library to see THE TREE OF KNOWLEDGE! Hey, I could always use some more knowledge! This sculpture is just beautiful!

The Tree of Knowledge at Roswell, NM public library
This was the beautiful tree trunk – titles, authors, important words from so many literary works! Spent quite a while reading as far as I could see!

I arrived at my daughter’s house in Albuquerque on Tuesday evening.  My four month journey was at an end.  So at almost 9000 miles in four months, spending less than $4000 on gas/food/stuff with just $64 for campground fees, $65 for one hotel night, and $150 for engine repairs/oil change, the trip was a great success! I saw family and friends – some whom I had not seen in 20+ years, spent a few weeks with all nine awesome grandchildren, crossed over 15 mountain ranges, walked/swam seacoasts and lakes and rivers, read 68 books, climbed some lighthouses, appreciated some museums, boondocked everywhere, saw beautiful vistas that were memorable, and made some amazing memories.

Now it is almost time for Albuquerque’s Balloon Fiesta (I get to crew for a Brazilian balloon team – YAY!!) and a mild fall/winter here in New Mexico.  I will teach 3 hours most mornings, and make some local trips here -to Taos, Santa Fe, Indian pueblos, state parks, etc.  If I missed you this 2017 trip, I will do my best to include your area next time! For those who are west of me, I will make a trip in that direction before too long!

Thanks for virtually traveling with me this summer!

–Scout, out!

From my bookshelf…

“But if you send something creative out into the world, it can be received and affect people in different ways than you expected or intended. And that was the most beautiful thing I learned on tour: that the stories I wrote down were mashed up in other people’s minds in MORE useful ways than I could ever have imagined. All across the country, I met so many people who were changed in a small way by what I wrote. And I, in turn, was changed by meeting them. What a lovely thing to experience.”

You’re Never Weird on the Internet (almost) by Felicia Day, 2017

Clothes – laundry — the simple, easy way!

One of the most significant decisions in minimizing to an RV lifestyle is the subject of clothing.  We all have closets and drawers full of clothes! A big part of downsizing was going through the clothes and deciding what to keep, recognizing that storage was minimal and the difference my new lifestyle would require in clothing. I took my clues from Marie Kondo’s book, The Art of Tidying Up.  I cleared a big area of the living room, and piled ALL the clothes from every closet and dresser and shelf and basket in the house.  Then I ruthlessly went through the mountain of stuff, throwing each item into the three SAVE – GIVE – TRASH piles. Since I would no longer be working in an office, all the work clothes went into the GIVE pile. Then I immediately bagged the GIVE and TRASH piles into garbage bags – white kitchen bags for GIVE to go to donation and black garbage bags for TRASH (underwear, socks, old holey sweats and T shirts, etc.)

With a much smaller pile of clothing to KEEP, I then decided to select 8 outfits for warmer weather and 8 outfits for colder weather.  I chose my favorite clothes and put them together into piles of tops and bottoms – and found that most were of the black/white/aqua coloring.  The rest I put into more white garbage bags to give away. I made a pile of 10 sets of underwear and socks, a swimsuit, one casual dress, a hoodie, a winter coat, two pajamas, and set them aside. Then I took all the garbage bags out to the car, drove to the donation center to toss in all the white bags, and to the dumpster to toss in all the black bags.  DONE! One ruthless afternoon, and no more dithering back and forth about clothes!

FYI – At the same time, I did the same thing with shoes – keeping a pair each of slippers, sneakers, hiking shoes, sandals, flip flops, and casual black shoes. All the rest went to GIVE or TRASH, depending on their condition. The shoes are in an inexpensive 12-pair hanging shoe bag , hanging over the back of the headboard and behind the bed. Used dryer sheets get tucked into the shoes so the van doesn’t smell like a locker room. (I prefer the lavender dryer sheets!)

Now I have been on the road for over a year, and am happy with the clothing choices I made. Most of the outfits coordinate and I have easily transitioned from warm weather to cooler weather to warm weather again. The layers work for me, and I have been very comfortable.  If I buy something, I donate the old so I am not adding more stuff into my van.     8 outfits for each season works well.

I do not have laundry facilities in my van by choice. I keep a small laundry basket handy and toss my dirty clothes there until it is full. Then I find a laundromat or use a family/friend washer when visiting.  I actually prefer to use a public laundromat or campground laundromat so I am not imposing on others.  Here is a picture of my laundry basket, which has detergent pods, dryer sheets, and a coin purse of quarters at the bottom, ready for the next laundry day.

The laundry basket – ready for the next washday

After I have washed and dried my clothes, I set them up as outfits.  I place a pair of capris/leggings down first on the table. Then I select a top folded lengthwise and underwear, and roll them together with the underwear inside.  Then this small bundle gets rolled up into the pants in a tight bundle.  Rolling prevents wrinkles and keeps the outfit tightly together.  I vary which tops and bottoms to combine so I don’t get bored with the clothing choices.

Capris, summer top, and underwear – outfit ready to be rolled up tightly
Top and underwear rolled into a small bundle, then rolled into pants

I use fabric cubes to store my clothes. One cube will have warm weather clothes (usually capris and a summery top with underwear) and another cube will have cooler weather clothes (usually leggings and a tunic and underwear). Then I just pull the next roll out of the appropriate cube for the weather that day and get dressed.  The rolled clothing bundles also make it easy to pack my gym bag if I am showering at a Planet Fitness or a campground or friend/family shower (Really? You never got into the shower room to find that you left your clean underwear in the van, or worse yet  — dropped it in the parking lot?!?!?) The fabric cubes are between the bed and back doors, and easily accessible from either inside reaching over the bed or outside via the back door.

Warm weather cube with outfits rolled into individual bundles
Cooler weather cube – outfits rolled into individual bundles

If I were a young mom raising kids again, I would definitely do this for the children in the family, even living in a home and not on the road.  Roll together a day’s outfit including underwear and socks, and it is so much easier to get them dressed for the day! And clean underwear gets used every day! (Seriously? your kids didn’t wear the same underwear for several days until you noticed?!?!?) The kid picks a bundle and puts it on – no more “which shirt do you want to wear? are those matching socks? no, please don’t choose an orange plaid shirt and purple striped shorts” arguments in the morning!

This is also a great technique for vacations, camping, etc.  You get the correct number of outfits and don’t end up with seven shirts and 3 pants and one pair of underwear. Keep a travel bag with toothbrush, toothpaste, shampoo and shower gel, and you are good to go!  It takes me about 10 minutes to pack for a trip – even going 2 weeks to South Korea to visit my daughter.

When I load the fabric cubes according to weather, it makes the morning choices easier – no more hunting for longer pants or a cooler shirt! I know which cube has warm weather clothes and which cube has cooler weather clothes.  There is another cube with extra underwear, the pajamas, and socks. One more cube has the swimsuit, hoodie, dress, etc. Everything is rolled to prevent wrinkles, even the casual dress! The laundry basket goes back into the van, making sure there are more detergent pods, dryer sheets, and quarters for the next laundry day – if not, I stop and purchase those things right away before the first dirty clothes get added on top.  This way I know I am ready for the next laundromat visit – no hunting for quarters or having to buy detergent from an expensive vending machine!

Ready for the next washday with detergent pods, dryer sheets, and quarters in a coin purse

It takes one washer to clean the laundry basket-ful, and another washer for sheets, towels, pillow cases – which I do once or twice a month depending on how often I slept in the van versus someone’s spare bedroom or my tent.  I spend very little time on clothing and am very comfortable with this setup for my particular lifestyle.

Everyone’s life is different, and your clothing preferences/lifestyle may differ, and so I humbly offer this as a starting point to thinking about how to simplify life.  


From my bookshelf:

“Very often we view God as a sort of grand puppeteer – making this one to jiggle and that one to dance, all on cue. I wonder, however, if this analogy isn’t all wrong. I wonder, instead, if it wouldn’t be better to analogize God as the master conductor instructing the various sections to respond on God’s signal – this section then the next, rhythmically responding and harmonizing with excellence. I wonder if God isn’t instead this great music maker, teaching all creation to play and sing along to the melody of love. God speaks: “Listen. Do you hear it? Do you know the tune? Join with me. Let us make music in the key of divine love!”

–Essay by Will Albright, The Jesus Lens: Seeing God through Jesus     from the book Uncontrolling Love: Essays Exploring the Love of God                     by Thomas Jay Oord, et al, 2017





Interrupting the big picture…happily!

One of the best perks of life on the road is the ability to stop at any time and lend a hand/be available to someone in need.  Whether it is your own family or an old friend or a complete stranger, there is nothing quite like the great feeling of being “in the right place at the right time” to make a difference for someone.

This month I began my four-month road trip as planned. Stayed a couple of days longer at one place to facilitate get-togethers with more family, added an extra night the next week to meet up with a niece I hadn’t seen in ma-a-a-a-a-a-ny years, and ended up arriving at my son’s house just as my daughter-in-law received a diagnosis of possible pre-eclampsia with the 7-month-in-utero twins.

What a great blessing to be able to extend a quick visit for over a week to help during the crisis. Fortunately, although the crisis quickly escalated, the twin boys were born naturally in the OR within days, and are doing fantastic in the NICU.  Carrie is able to stay at the Ronald McDonald House next door so she can focus on the twins.  The other five siblings are at home, being cared for by family and friends.  It was a privilege to be a part of the “village” that cared for my family.

I say this because many times when I was working the 9-5 from a sticks-and-bricks stationary home, I would hear of something happening and be unable to physically help. I am rethinking part of my future planning – to always allow for helping others. Now that I no longer need to keep to a rigid schedule, like so many who live on the road, should we not stop and help whenever possible? Isn’t this one of the best perks of our “go with the flow” schedule!?!?!

Also during the month of July, I was privileged to visit the beautiful land and people of Prince Edward Island, Canada. I thoroughly enjoyed all the Anne of Green Gables attractions, including a musical theatre production in Charlottetown one evening. As I happened to arrive on July 1, the birthday of Canada, I was able to walk into a harbor festival in Summerside for a wonderful evening of music, good food, and fireworks with some lovely people.  My little van parked in the public harbor parking gave me instant access, and I was able to stay there for the night – sleeping with a wonderful sea breeze coming in my windows.

The coast of Prince Edward Island has 37 lighthouses, 9 of which are open to climb and enjoy a magnificent view.  The red cliffs along the coast were my afternoon delights – a different beach/park each day as I wound my way around the island.  For any bikers, this is a biking paradise as bike trails wind around the entire coast – I enjoyed walking many of these trails.  Each hill I crested provided yet another spectacular view of waves, cliffs, beaches, lighthouses, and so much more.  The pink, purple and white lupin that grow along the roads are so pretty. Yet the entire island is sparsely touristed and never felt crowded.

When I arrived back in Maine, I was able to spend more time with my oldest brother than I have spent with him in years. It was a great time to reconnect and feel more like part of his family again! Another few days with another brother and his family, and I was so happy to help celebrate a favorite nephew’s 40th birthday.  Spending more time just chilling and visiting – instead of rushing to see each person on a quick visit – this is what is different with my current travels.  I spent some time with a friend from Long Island who summers at Point Sebago and met her family – the last time I saw her was when her first daughter was born and now the three girls are all adults!

An evening with two older cousins in Portland, Maine, made me very happy, and I learned more about my extended family than ever before. How sad that our previous generations allowed animosity and resentment to separate the family so that we did not get to know each other and spend time together while growing up.  Happily, we are changing that as adults!

The next day I went to visit one of my cousins at her camp on Sebago Lake, which I vaguely remember from the past, and it was my great pleasure to have an afternoon to visit with her and one of her sons. My “first cousin once removed” is an amazing inner city high school teacher and I am so proud of the work he is doing and the relationships he is investing himself in with young people. What a glowing example of a teacher who cares, really cares, about his students as individuals! It was wonderful to hear about what they are accomplishing in Nashville, and I loved connecting with him over the picnic table lakeside.

  My favorite cousin and her family was next on the list for a visit. While I have often stopped by for visits “on the way” somewhere, this was the first time in decades that I spent several days with her. Despite this, we have always maintained a connection that is more sister than cousin. I enjoyed spending time getting to know her family members a bit more. As I was leaving, she remarked how much more she would miss me now that we had actually spent some days together – exactly how I feel!  Slowing down to spend more time with a person makes such a stronger connection, and I am so glad I have these opportunities. Pulling my little camper van into a driveway for a few days means we spend so much more time together yet I can sleep in my van and not inconvenience anyone – although my wonderful “first cousin once removed”, Sam, was willing to give up his bed to make me more comfortable!!  Pretty cool for a 16-year-old young man to be willing to sacrifice his bed for me! His big sister, Deanna, was also wonderful to visit – they sure have grown up and are terrific adults.

By the way, Google informs me that the child of my cousin is NOT my second cousin, but is my first cousin once removed.  Google also says they should be addressed as niece and nephew – yay!  We usually just say “cousin” and leave it at that, but whatever the name, they are some pretty awesome people.  I was able to meet my “first cousin once removed” Stuart’s wife, and their four kids I have only known through Facebook.  Much as I love Facebook and social media to keep in touch with people, FACE TIME is so much better!!!

Now I am back in New York, spending time with my son Sean and his family, and making some smaller trips to visit friends and places in the area.  I am looking forward to the Norman Rockwell Museum in Stockbridge, Massachusetts, next week.  Two months of my four month trip are done, and it has been wonderful!  I have reconnected and met so many family/friends – I feel so blessed.

How have the finances been?  Here are the stats for the first two months:

JUNE (5 weeks, including last week of May):

Gas $470 – for 2786 miles; Food $130; Other $270 – TOTAL $870

JULY (includes trip to Canada)

Gas $433 – for 2638 miles; Food $183; Other $381 – TOTAL $997

August will be less expensive as I am based mainly in New York at my son’s home and just taking small trips.  Lots of time chillin’ with the fam! I am also working more online classes to replenish the funds as I did spend more on food and entertainment/touristy stuff than I had planned. I am fortunate to have a job that allows me to travel and plan my work around the more important things of life! In June I earned just about $525 and a little less in July as I did not work at all while in Canada, and much of the time in Maine.  When I leave New York, I will reduce my teaching schedule again to fit my travel schedule.  Since my phone/insurance bills are only $300 a month, I am in good shape.  With no other debts, I can enjoy this lifestyle by keeping it simple and doing a LOT of boondocking!

Where have I boondocked on this trip?  Besides the driveways of family and friends, I have overnighted in:  a harbor parking lot, a hospital visitor parking lot, on a town street beside a park, at Walmarts and Cracker Barrel restaurants, truck stops and secure 24-hour highway convenience/rest stops.  I have only paid $24 in campground fees, for 3 nights, and have otherwise boondocked for free.

Hope your summer is going well, and you are happily connecting with family and friends, too!  Life is too short to waste, and too beautiful to miss! While not everyone has the ability to travel like I am doing, have FUN and ENJOY each day!

Scout — out!!

From my bookshelf:

“It was not nature that moved me…it was the feeling of smallness, of isolation, that I craved. How I wish I felt at home in the crowds of Salem, the salons of Boston. Still, when I am in society, I feel their need and hopes on me like an actual physical presence….Company is a burden to those at home in the solitude of their souls.”

The House of Hawthorne, by Erica Robuck, 2015

OFF-GRID and inexpensive life on the open road

Living life on the road…on a shoestring budget

doesn’t leave much wiggle room financially, and I like being free of expensive habits. So here are a few of my budget-savers which you may want to adapt for your travels!

Generally, I spend less than $5 a day on food.  I don’t have a fridge in the camper, and just use a cooler, which I keep covered with a cooling cover I made with Reflectix material and duct tape.  I shop at Aldi/Dollar Stores for inexpensive packaged food and snacks.  The cooler, which I use without ice, keeps food protected from the heat and I store eggs at room temperature, hard cheese to grate, peanut butter and jelly, bread, fruit, fresh vegetables, crackers, raisins/M&Ms/honey nut cheerios snack mix, etc.  In my kitchen drawers, I store package goods — tuna salad, chili, corned beef hash, soup, stew, bags of cornbread/cake/brownie/cookie mixes, bags of chips, etc. I keep a variety to last a couple of weeks at a time. If I spend $30 on food supplies at a time, that lasts me quite a while, in part because I plan my trips to stop in for visits with family/friends and am often fed by them! (MOOCH CAMPING is fun, love visiting with them, and keeps me social/engaged with everyone!)

Cooler (front passenger seat removed)
Portable 12 volt stove with the fixins for apple cobbler

Above is a simple 12 volt portable stove which plugs into the 12volt power source on the dashboard. An hour before stopping for a hot meal, I plug in this stove while the engine is running (it looks kind of like an old fashioned lunchbox and sits in a Reflectix-lined basket in the console area of the van) and add a quick meal — can of chili with cornbread mix on top, soup with biscuit mix on top, water and pasta, French bread pizza, chicken and gravy, beef stew, corned beef hash with fresh eggs on top, you name it! Or for dessert, a brownie mix, cookie dough, or pie filling/cake mix for a cobbler or buckle (shown above, apple pie filling with a spice cake mix).  20-40 minutes down the road, the meal/dessert is ready so I unplug the stove and leave it closed and hot until I stop to eat. Costs around $30 from Amazon.

12-volt beverage heater

Remembered from my old college days, I recently purchased a new beverage heating coil, seen above, about $10 from Amazon. Adding water to a coffee mug (not anything plastic), I can plug this into the dashboard 12 volt power source while the engine is running, and heat a cup of hot water within minutes.  Great for adding oatmeal/cream of wheat packets, ramen noodles to make a quick meal, just a cup of hot chocolate or tea, etc. (I don’t drink coffee, or that would be another quick cup.)

Portable 12 volt/solar generator,

Another great money-saver is the solar/12 volt generator I use to charge my phone, laptop, Kindle, or run a fan. No need to carry fuel!!! When driving, I charge the generator through the 12 volt power source on my dashboard.  I can charge my phone and Kindle easily at night from the generator so I don’t need to run my engine.  I run my laptop for several hours a day off this generator, as I teach online classes one to three hours a day to fund my travels.  This generator can be charged one of three ways – through the 12 volt power source in the van dashboard while driving, if hooked up to a solar panel (which I may add in the near future as it is a separate kit), or through anyone’s 110 house plugin (AC input) while visiting – adaptors for all three are included. This smaller than 8-inch generator has 2 USB ports, and can be plugged into with the normal 110 current plug of most fans (AC output), and will switch from AC to DC if low on power.  It has a power level LED display, and an ultra-bright LED emergency light. The cost on Amazon was less than $145. Since there is no fuel and the size is very compact and lightweight, I can easily stow this generator out of sight when I will be away from the van.

2 gallon solar shower

Another great addition when on the road this year is a simple solar shower pump. I purchased a new 2-gallon plastic pump multi-purpose sprayer for $10 from Walmart’s garden aisle. I spray painted the plastic bottle with black matte so it will absorb the sunlight more easily to warm the water. I am currently replacing the small spray nozzle on the end with a hose to pipe adaptor and a normal garden hose sprayer.  I can pump the handle a few times and have a decent flow of warm water to rinse off feet, shower, wash my hair, or general cleanup.  2 gallons is not a lot of water, so I am sparse with the water usage.  If I want to take a private shower, I have a hula hoop under the bed with shower curtain attached and I can just hang it up from a tree limb and voila! clean and happy camper!  To be honest, I usually shower at Planet Fitness centers across the country (my only “other” expense at $20 a month to use anywhere) or at the homes of family/friends I am visiting along the way.  But this is still terrific for beach rinsing, etc.

3 drawer kitchen cart in cabinet
Washup sink area on top of kitchen cabinet

My kitchen/washing setup in the van does not have fuel, running water, or refrigeration.  I have a three drawer cart in a homemade cabinet, with a drop-in sink above and a stand for bottled water above the sink.  The three drawer cart has plenty of space for my packaged goods, cooking utensils, spices, pot holders, paper plates and plastic cutlery, cutting board and knives, mugs, etc.  The sink can be easily lifted out to toss the water appropriately.  I use the bottled water to wash, brush my teeth, and spot clean, as well as drink.  The 2.5 gallon jugs of water cost about $2 and I carry one and a spare. I also have a small mirror hanging above the sink to check my bed-head before leaving the van!

Cabinet for potty
Portable self-contained toilet with double bagged waste bag -ready for emergencies

The portable self-contained potty is stored in another homemade cabinet. This cost me $35 for a comfortable potty which I can use in the van or tent. I initially purchased “double-doodie toilet waste bags” which cost over $2 apiece – pretty expensive.  However, I do like the set up and easy disposal so I created my own, using dollar store/Aldi kitchen garbage bags, quart-size ziplock bags and inexpensive toddler disposable diapers, at a cost of less than 60 cents each. I prepare a tote bag full of ready-to-go waste bags, usually about 18 at a time, which lasts me several weeks.  PREP:  I refold the kitchen garbage bags into the ziplock bag and place a diaper in each one.  USE: Then it is quick to grab a ziplock bag, remove the diaper, unfold the kitchen garbage bag (but leaving the bottom end still in the ziplock bag!!) to place into the portable potty.  I pull the kitchen garbage bag top up and over the seat and then place the open diaper in the bottom of the garbage bag.  The diaper soaks up liquid waste, any solid waste is at the bottom of the bag which is double-bag protected with the ziplock bag.  After usage, fold the kitchen garbage bag with waste and diaper down into the ziplock bag (already “attached”), zip it closed, and dispose of the package.  To anyone concerned, this is hygienic – baby diapers are also tossed into regular trash, no medical waste requirements.

Screenhouse sets up in 5 minutes at the campsite (usually I place it over the picnic table provided for bug-free eating)

If I decide to spend some time at a campsite (rare due to expense), I have all my camping gear stored under the bed.  I have a tent, a screenhouse, and gear for cooking over an open fire.  If I do stop for some camping R&R, I will go to a state or federal park or COE (Corps of Engineers) site, which is less expensive than a private campground. I am not interested in amenities and activities, just want a private space under the trees to chill and make a campfire.

Acrylic painting from Cambodia; Cut out family pictures on the wood trim around the van interior
Cut out picture and place on sticky craft foam. Trim and hang – I just staple them to the trim.

Just as an additional FYI, I love to live surrounded by my family so I took a bunch of photos and scanned them into a thumb drive and the cloud. Then I took the original and cut around the person(s). Buy colorful sticky craft foam and attach the photo to the sticky side.  Cut around the photo leaving a colorful edge, and decorate the interior of your van.  I just staple mine to the wood trim.  My family is always with me!

Okay, this concludes some of my tricks to an inexpensive road trip.  I am leaving in about a week for four months, heading east and north.  Happy trails!


From my bookshelf:

“It is perfectly legitimate and even admirable for Americans to promote their personal values through either religious or political processes…. the role of spiritual leaders in America’s civil rights movement is a wonderful example of the healing role faith can play in our national life. But when we attempt to use our government to force others to worship as we do, or treat those who differ as second-class citizens, then we are violating the basic tenets of a democracy…. Unfortunately, many people of faith today focus more on the quarrels that divide us than on the values that unite us.”

Living Faith by Jimmy Carter, 1996

Planning a ROAD TRIP on a shoestring budget

On the road again –
Just can’t wait to get on the road again…

Goin’ places that I’ve never been, 
Seein’ things that I may never see again…”

Read more: Willie Nelson – On The Road Again Lyrics | MetroLyrics

This is where my head’s been at for the last month. Spring is here and summer is just around the corner.  I have worked the last few months to replenish my savings account so I can head back east and north for the months of June to September.

I have loved spending the winter here in New Mexico with my daughters, but I am ready to travel full time again.  I will add my tentative itinerary at the end of this post for those interested. First, though, I thought I would share with all of you the process I have developed of planning a major road trip on a shoestring budget.

First, I make a list of people/places I would like to visit.  Of course this involves family, especially kids and grandkids!  Top priority there!  Add in extended family and friends, some whom I have not seen since college back in the 1970’s.  Looking at the atlas, I think about places I would like to visit if possible, and any celebrations/special events I know about that I would like to see.  I plan to travel to Arkansas, Virginia, New York, Maine, Nova Scotia and Prince Edward Island Canada, and then back to Maine, New York, Pennsylvania, Virginia, North and South Carolina, and Florida. Here is my initial list:

Rough draft list of possibilities

I have columns for location (and automatically put them in a logical traveling order), who I am visiting, any special events/places in the area, if I would be boondocking, mooch-docking, campground or hotel, dates I may need to be there (such as a birthday), and the approximate miles between locations.  I sit with this document for several days to let my brain simmer.

I like to look at a paper atlas at this point, in case I missed something.  I will also look at some blog posts I have saved from other people describing places I’m interested in, and also will spend some time on the laptop doing research. This trip I specifically would like to visit Canada in their national parks celebration, including the Tall Ships events and my childhood favorite – Anne of Green Gables. I also would like to visit Harry Potter World at Universal Studios in Orlando, which I missed last year.

After research and rumination, I do a second draft of the same list with my modifications so it isn’t too messy.  (This first rough draft is usually a mess after a few days of switching things around and adding/subtracting details!)  When the details look good, I get a good feeling.  Now this tentative schedule may get totally disrupted by weather, illness, money not stretching far enough…any number of situations.  But I am ready to head out with the big picture in mind, and a “take it as it comes” mindset. I am never too far from family or friends, and I don’t have a need to stick to every detail. I don’t have a problem with things changing.

To continue the planning, I now move to my expected expenses for the trip. On the back of this form, I will add up the total miles to figure out my gas costs – the biggest expense of the road trip for me!  This is money that has already been saved and earmarked for fuel.  This trip looks to be about 7000 miles, give or take.  Although gas is now about $2.20 per gallon, I will adjust to $2.50 per gallon to be on the safe side.  So fuel costs will be $1800-$2000.

Then I add the days when I am traveling and need to eat.  Since I am usually visiting with someone every few days, I eat very simply on the road – usually about $5 per day.  At this point, it looks like about 25 days on the road, so cost would be approximately $125 for groceries.  (Not bad for four months!) I double that to include supplies and such, bumping it up to $300 just to be on the safe side.

Next I would look at optional expenses – such as campgrounds, ferries, events, tolls, etc.  I know I want to take the ferry from Nova Scotia back to Maine and that is $200.  I would like to spend a couple of days in Orlando at Harry Potter World, so that is a huge optional expense. Campgrounds will probably run me about $300, so I place these optional expenses at $700.  If money is tight, I will change my plans and boondock, travel non-toll roads, etc.

So it looks like my costs for the four-month summer trip will be approximately $3000, barring any unknown calamities.  This is money already saved for the trip.  (I recommend people travel with at least $1500 extra -banked- for emergencies.) I will continue to work 10 hours a week while on the road (teaching Chinese children online English classes) to pay for my regular bills of insurances, Planet Fitness, and Verizon.

Now that I have the rough draft ready, I print out blank calendar pages to plot the day-to-day details:

The month of June – rough draft

The distance between two scheduled stops is figured (love to google: mileage from Albuquerque, NM to Fayetteville, AK, for example). I divide the total miles on that leg of the journey by 250 – that is the maximum I want to travel in a day.  Then I look in the atlas to see where I would be and figure where truck stops would be, or towns with Cracker Barrels or Cabella’s, etc. –any place I can sleep for the night in safety for FREE. I do have phone apps that tell me of boondocking places and campgrounds, etc. so I can quickly decide where to stay while on the road, even at the last minute.  I do my best to be at the overnight stop by 4 pm so I can check it out, get a “safe” feel or continue to another place, all before dark.

If I think I might use a campground, I look at some in the area.  I usually stay in State Parks, Federal Parks, or COE (Corp of Engineer parks), as they are less expensive than a private campground, they don’t care that my vehicle is older than 5 years, and they are generally more nature-inspiring!

After all this planning, I will let my family and friends know my tentative itinerary.  Always communicate that the dates may change based on weather, traffic, and who knows what else may happen on the road! I keep in touch with those I am planning to visit the week before I am due so they know if I am on target or will be earlier/later than scheduled.  At this point, some may not be able to host me and so I would revise my plans as they let me know.  I really do “fly by the seat of my pants” so this is the most organized I can possibly be!

Tentative Itinerary for June-September 2017:

  • 5/29 Mon. leave Albuquerque, NM — to Amarillo, TX
  • 5/30 Tues. –to Oklahoma City, OK
  • 5/31 Wed. — to Fayetteville, AR
  • 6/3 Sat. — to Memphis, TN
  • 6/4 Sun. — to Nashville, TN
  • 6/5 Mon. — to Knoxville, TN
  • 6/6 Tues. — to Clemmons, NC
  • 6/8  Thu. — to Buena Vista, VA
  • 6/11 Sun. — to mid-Pennsylvania
  • 6/12 Mon. — to Albany, NY
  • 6/26 Mon. — to York, ME
  • 6/29 Thu. — to Bangor, ME
  • 6/30 Fri. — to New Brunswick, Canada
  • 7/1 Sat. — to Pugwash, NB (Tall Ships event)
  • 7/2 Sun. — to Port Hawkesbury, NB (Tall Ships event)
  • 7/3 Mon. — to Prince Edward Island, Canada
  • visit (Anne of Green Gables, etc.)
  • 7/9 Sun. — to Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada
  • 7/13 Thu. — ferry from Nova Scotia to Portland, Maine
  • drive to Dixfield, ME
  • 7/17 Mon. — to Sebago Lake, ME
  • 7/18 Tues. — to Raymond, ME
  • 7/19 Wed. — to Portland, ME
  • 7/21 Fri. — Sanford, ME
  • 7/22 Sat. — to York, ME
  • 7/28 Fri. — to Albany, NY
  • 8/20 Sun. — to Cochranville, PA
  • 8/22 Tue. — to Buena Vista, VA
  • 8/27 Sun. — to Charlotte, NC
  • 8/28 Mon. (my birthday!) to Myrtle Beach, SC
  • 8/29 Tues. — to Conway, SC
  • 9/1 Fri. — to Savannah, GA
  • 9/2 Sat. — Tybee Island, GA
  • 9/4 Mon. — to Jacksonville, FL
  • 9/5 Tues. — to Orlando, FL
  • 9/9 Sat. — to Tallahassee, FL
  • 9/10 Sun. — to Mobile, AL
  • 9/11 Mon. — to New Orleans, LA
  • 9/12 Tues. — to mid-Louisiana
  • 9/13 Wed. — to Houston, TX
  • 9/14 Thu. — to Waco, TX
  • visit MAGNOLIA store and town
  • 9/16 Sat. — to Lubbock, TX
  • 9/17 Sun. — to Roswell, NM
  • 9/18 Mon. — return to Albuquerque, NM!

I will be contacting people at this point to see if I can stop for a visit along the way.  I would request to park my van in their driveway.  I would love to share a meal or two with them, and see the family! If there’s something awesome to do in the area, I ask them to please let me know if we could enjoy that together.  If not, just hanging out is FINE with me!  Most family/friends will get back to me quickly and I highlight those that can host me, and which dates.  Now my tentative road trip plan is pretty much set.

I know other people may plan more, and do things differently, but this works for me.  I love seeing family and friends and doing cool stuff, but I am also fine with boondocking along the way on my own. As a confirmed introvert, I can easily go for da-a-a-a-a-a-a-ys without talking to another person.  I can always GOOGLE an area and find interesting things to do that don’t cost anything.  Nature itself is my favorite go-to, and America the Beautiful has so much to offer!

So, I hope my detailed process for planning a road trip is helpful to someone.  Please comment if you have other tips and tricks to planning a long trip!  Hope to see you this summer!  Happy trails!

—Scout, out!

From my bookshelf…

“There is a love and respect at the center of everything we do together. It’s not just business, it’s personal.  When you come to work with me, I had to be assured you’d bring your heart.  Heart sealed the deal.  That’s why the E Street Band plays steamroller strong and undiminished, forty years in, night after night. We are more than an idea, an aesthetic. We are a philosophy, a collective,with a professional code of honor….That it’s an honor and great fun to join in concert with those whom you’ve invested so much of yourself in and they in you, your fans, the stars above, this moment, and apply your trade humbly (or not so!) as a piece of a long, spirited chain you’re thankful to be a small link in.”

From “Born to Run” by Bruce Springsteen, 2016

Wanderlust…or FERNWEH

Wanderlust, is a very strong desire for or an irresistible impulse to wander or travel and explore the world.  The term originates from the German words wandern (to hike or to wander) and lust (desire), meaning you have a lust for travel.

Fernweh, which, again Germanic, literally translates to distance-sickness (fern meaning distant and wehe meaning drift), refers to a longing for far-off places. This is similar to the state of homesickness, as it makes you sad and depressed when you aren’t travelling.


This love of traveling and visiting other places is not new to some of us, but it is rather perplexing to many of our family and friends.  While some love the comforts of home and the structure and stability of a settled life, others love the freedom to travel and experience new places and new people and new food and new…everything!

Many years ago when I was 14, my family moved from New Hampshire to Oklahoma (for complicated reasons not important to this post) and thereafter I usually moved just about every two years…from various places in Oklahoma, to Missouri, to New York City, to Illinois, to Long Island and then upstate New York.  I have never felt a “this is my forever home” feeling, although I always enjoy a “this is my home for now” settled feeling wherever I am.  I am connected with family (my children, my brothers, my cousin Leslie) and friends who I wouldn’t hesitate to stop and visit whenever in their locate (Kim Calleja, Linda Monez, Tim and Ann Moore, Marcia Poole, Dawn Stephanoff, Elizabeth Rossi, etc.)  While I feel connected and have roots with people, I really don’t have roots for a location.

For the moment, I am enjoying staying in Albuquerque, New Mexico, with my daughters Tara and Morgan, and their housemates Dayton and Emily. Albuquerque is a beautiful area, with SO MUCH to see and experience. My plans for the next few months while getting established in my online business include:  Ride the Rails train trips to Santa Fe (will probably have to do this many times as there is so much to see there and at only $10 for the two hour trip!!!), the pueblos and petroglyphs in New Mexico, the Indian Cultural Center, the Rio Grande Bosque, the Sandia Crest tramway, and all the beautiful state parks of New Mexico.

The sky is SO BIG here in New Mexico and the weather is almost always sunny.  I feel like I breathe deeper out west here where the horizon is so expansive, and the mountains I see in the distance are actually on the other side of the state!

When I was leaving Arkansas after visiting my brothers David and Kevin, and all the great family there, I headed across Oklahoma and Texas to New Mexico.  Someone had said this was a boring drive, but I found it to be so very exciting! Having just crossed some of the same territory two and three times in the last couple of months, I love driving these miles.  I don’t even have music or the radio on; I just drive and look around and enjoy every little thing.




Tumbleweed – killed a few of these on I-40 on a windy day!

“Big Jim Bowie knife!”

Biggest Bowie knife, in Bowie, TX

“Big canyon!”

Palo Duro Canyon, just south of Amarillo, TX
Second largest canyon in USA – beautiful!

“Huge can of Whoopa$$!”  (no picture -darn!, was in traffic, but seen outside of Dallas Speedway in No Limits, TX)

I imagine when this territory was the home of Native Americans and wildlife…buffalo stampeding across the ground…then the pioneers and adventurers coming in dribs and drabs…the Oklahoma land rush…the years of bloodshed and disease and sorrow – a part of our history I think of with great shame for the greedy white people who thought they were superior to the natives….

The beautiful mesas and canyons and arroyos…the vast plains…the rocky hills and mountains…and the sun, always the vast sky above and around me!  Perhaps it is the big windows on my van as I travel, but I am so very aware of the big blue sky – and the stars at night, wow!

An appreciation for the arts and culture of peoples around me has always been part of this FERNWEH.  For now, in Albuquerque, it is the Navajo, the Apache and Comanche and Ute tribes, the Zuni and Pueblos – so much history and art and traditions to experience.  This week (Dec. 21) was the night-long drums of the longest night of the year and the celebration of first sunrise.  I hope to spend all night next year to experience this! Add to that, all the sacred ceremonies and beautiful art and historical villages

While crossing part of Texas again after Christmas, I stopped at Palo Dura Canyon just south of Amarillo.  What a beautiful spot, second largest canyon in the USA, second only to the Grand Canyon itself…and far less touristy or crowded! New Year’s Eve “last night hike” and “first 2017 morning sunrise” were spectacular!  20 miles of gorgeous canyon views, and a great drive as well.  Definitely, this is a place to return for camping adventures!

Where will I be heading next?  After a couple of more months in New Mexico, I will be heading back east, stopping to visit family and friends along the way.  I’ll be stopping in Arkansas, Missouri, North/South Carolina, Virginia, New York, Maine … then heading into Canada for their 150-year anniversary and free national parks there during 2017.  Plan on seeing Prince Edward Isle (Anne of Green Gables, anyone?) and the Tall Ships at port in Nova Scotia.

I cannot get enough of these experiences!  Are you amazed by all the beauty of our country?  Do you experience wanderlust or FERNWEH?  Do you desire to travel here and/or abroad? Do you feel trapped, or in a rut, or just ready to go out and explore?  There are so many of us out there, part time and full time travelers – come join us!

–Scout, out!


From the bookshelf –

“She felt suddenly as if she hadn’t been breathing, not properly, for a long time. It was as if her entire body was exhaling…. It was a most peculiar feeling. Nina breathed in suddenly, all the way in, and felt her shoulders uncurl, as if they’d been jammed up around her ears…”

The Bookshelf on the Corner, by Jenny Colgan, 2016






Working remote — best job ever!

Life on the road…a dream for many!

But how do we afford it???

Since I am not a trust-fund baby and I am not of retirement age for a few more years, I needed to have some income to pay for gas, insurance, and food.  Since I started this venture debt-free by purchasing and renovating an older camper, and paying down all other debts, my financial needs are low, but they are NEEDS!  From my research of success stories, I learned they recommend having three lines of income.  So, how to make money on the road….???

The task of funding my travels is solved!

  1. Online Teaching: I have applied, trained, and started working for VIPkids — providing half hour on-line English classes one-on-one to Chinese youngsters.  What a fun class, and so easy from my “mobile classroom”!  I am just now in my first week of classes, spent about $25 buying a small whiteboard and some fun props, and so far am making about $18 an hour, not including bonuses. The minimum required is 7.5 hours per week, and I can open my schedule however I want, different every day or just work 1-2 mornings in a week! I LOVE logging into “my classroom” on my laptop and encouraging adorable little kids to sound out simple words, read, and just plain have fun together!  Being silly and making them laugh is a top priority – what a perfect job!!!
“My classroom” with VIPkids
Teacher Tevis in her orange T-shirt (VIPkid color)

The curriculum is all created – I just follow the powerpoint for the assigned class.  It is simple to do the activities with the kiddo, and there is a short learning objective to accomplish.  VIPkid does a great job of providing a variety of fun learning activities to accomplish the learning objective.  Once I’d done a few lessons I felt completely comfortable with the whole setup.  I open my classroom about 15 minutes before the first class of the day to review the slides and what I should be doing, and then I am ready to have fun and make little kids laugh and learn!

The requirements to apply and all information related to VIPkids can be found at www.vipkids.com .  Please use my referral code if you want to apply – thanks!  http://teacher-recruitment.vipkid.com.cn/home.shtml?refereeId=2792627

My only difficulty will be making sure I have good wi-fi wherever I am traveling.  I do have a Verizon my-fi ($10 per month) and my phone cellular hotspot –although that uses up my data! I am planning to purchase a booster receiver for campground locations as that will assist me in the reception from the campground wi-fi. So far I am boondocking at my daughters’ home and using their wi-fi.  Thanks, Tara and Morgan!!

The peak times for classes are 4-9 pm Beijing Time.  Since I am in Albuquerque (Mountain Time) at this time, that means 3-7 am for me –pretty much the middle of the night.  There is also 9-noon on Beijing weekend mornings but that doesn’t work for my schedule here so I don’t open my schedule for that time period.  The good thing about working in these early morning hours is that at a campground most people will be asleep and I will have most of the wi-fi bandwidth available — win-win for me!! I can sleep any time, before or after classes, so depending on where I am anywhere in the US, I sign up according to Beijing Time and just set my alarm!

2.  Affiliate Marketing:  While I have included an affiliate link for Amazon (the only company I am willing to represent) here on these blog posts, it takes time to build a following and start getting commissions from affiliate marketing. I do need readers to click through the Audible ad on each post or the ad at the bottom of the post to get to Amazon, then log into their account for whatever they wish to purchase.  So far, I have about 4 cents in commissions, LOL!  Ah well, everything in time!

3.  Ambassador:  I am also an ambassador for RentWizard, letting folks who own RV’s know about the rental site and how it works.  RentWizard is like AirBNB, so anyone can rent an RV, or you can list your RV if you’re an owner and open to possibly renting your RV out.  Since the RV owner sets all the criteria and can accept/reject any offer, it is a safe website to list your RV as a rental and qualify you to use many of your RV costs as tax deductions – even if you don’t actually rent it out that year! Anyone interested in either working as an ambassador and/or listing their RV can log in and use my code:  57C831  – and you get an extra 6 months free!  This has brought in a few commissions for me but is also slow to start being reliable income.  Check it out at www.rentwizard.com !

So, is it worth it?

Keeping costs down, all the hassle with wi-fi, and not having a dependable income yet – is it worth it?  YES, YES, YES!!!  I love the freedom this choice has given me, and the ability to move around as I wish, and all the options of where to stop and for how long! I love knowing I make my own schedule every day and that I can go visit someone at any time without “taking vacation from work.  When I look through the Facebook groups, of which there are quite a few, I see so many others choosing the full-time RV life-style.  I am part of a terrific community!

I’ll be flying back to New York for Christmas in a couple of weeks, and then coming back to Albuquerque for a while.  Have to say, I love the New Mexico sky and mountains and culture — so much to see here!

Albuquerque balloon fiesta
Albuquerque tumbleweed snowman


Happy holidays from NY and NM!


From the bookshelf…

“This country faces more serious problems today than at any time since the Great Depression, and, if you include the planetary crisis of climate change, it may well be that the challenges we face now are more dire than at any time in our modern history.”

Our Revolution: A Future to Believe In,   Bernie Sanders

Safety First!!!

The most frequently asked question of solo women RV-ers:

“But what about your SAFETY ?!?!?”

Personal safety is, of course, a very important issue.  However, conversations with RV-ers both on social media and in person all come to the same conclusion:

Our best defense is common sense/intuition

always being aware of your surroundings…

choosing wisely where to stop…

moving on if you feel “ummmm, doesn’t feel safe”…

keeping someone informed of where you are.

So what else can a gal do to stay safe?  Personally, I carry on my key ring a small device that emits a 120 decibel alarm if I pull the pin, and a very bright LED flashlight with strobe. This is with me at all times.

High decibel personal alarm on key ring - just pull the pin
High decibel personal alarm on key ring – just pull the pin

 I also have a Louisville Slugger (baseball bat) in my van.

Louisville Slugger - made famous by Carrie Underwood
Louisville Slugger – made famous by Carrie Underwood

Additionally, when any door is opened on the van, four LED strips light up the world inside my van — powerfully bright.

Small LED lightstrip
Small LED lightstrip
4 of these LED lightstrips really illuminate the entire van

From extensive readings and interviews, I see that a few women carry a gun of some kind.  If someone is licensed and trained, a firearm could be of benefit, but I know I personally do not want to drive around “armed and dangerous”! I also do not have a dog with me, or pet of any kind, although I know many women travel with canine protection.  I have taken a defensive strategy class, and recommend that as well. Growing up with six brothers had taught me most of this already, but a good refresher class was part of my start-up strategy!

Vehicular safety is also an important facet of all RV-ers.  Preventive maintenance is key, and saves an abundance of breakdowns and problems on the road, which can be particularly unsafe.  Besides a full tool kit, fire extinguisher, a good spare tire, jack and flares, etc., I also have an emergency kit with water, protein, safety blanket, surgical and CPR masks, etc.

Jumper cables, Flat fire foam, flares, etc.
Jumper cables, Flat fire foam, flares, etc.
Home emergency backpack with water, protein, weather radio, space blanket, first aid supplies
Home emergency backpack with water, protein, weather radio, space blanket, first aid supplies
Auto fire extinguisher on passenger door panel next to other emergency supplies
Auto fire extinguisher on passenger door panel next to other emergency supplies

When parked at a rest stop or campsite, I lock my van doors from the inside and add a locking steel-corded bungee cord (actually bike lock cord) so the doors will not open if the lock is busted. Only the driver door can be entered with just the key.

Bungie cords are locked inside the doors to prevent opening during travel stops

Very few RV-ers have a story of when they were in an unsafe situation, and few have encountered violence of any kind.  Media tends to portray our American world as full of violent crazies and while we recognize there are some out there, they are not usually encountered by RV-ers.  Most solo female RV-ers have just used common sense, and never remained in a place where they felt unsafe, so the fear is reduced significantly with experience.

An excellent book recently recommended is The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker.  The emphasis on learning survival signals and trusting your instinct is fantastic!  Passing on the recommendation to everyone!

A great protocol in traveling which I discovered in a Facebook group post, and now follow, is the 9-2-4 rule:

9) Leave your overnight location around 9 am (avoid those hurrying off to work in the morning and school buses);

2) drive in 2-hour increments with a break in-between so one doesn’t get over-tired;

4) arrive at your next destination by 4 pm — and if you feel unsafe, you have another hour or more of daylight to find another (safe) overnight place.

This usually has the RV-er traveling about 250-350 miles a day at an unhurried pace, with time to explore and relax.

Smartphone apps are abundant and provide great assistance on the road, especially with boondocking and destinations.  Most travelers use a GPS, and apps like RV Parky, AllStays, RVovernight and Gas Buddy are terrific resources that are free to upload and use. There are many more apps that help a traveler plan and execute a safe trip.

How many travel apps do you have?

While many folks like to plan ahead, there are a significant number of us who may have a general idea of where we want to go but we don’t plan much beyond today and perhaps tomorrow.  By the time I pull onto the road in the morning, I usually have several options in mind for my next overnight destination.  But since I am always ready to turn left instead of right, or detour to something I want to see along the way, those plans may change throughout the day.  When I have parked for the night (by 4 p.m.) I send a text message of my location to my home base, my son and daughter-in-law in New York.

If stopping to hike (alone as that is how I travel), I will let my home base know the logistics of where I am, how long I expect to be hiking, etc.  If I am hiking from a campground, I will let my campground neighbor know the same.  NOTE: It is always a good idea to befriend a couple or several couples in your chosen campground, and also to let them know you’ll be gone from the campground for a while.  Good neighbors will keep an eye on each other’s RVs and equipment.

There are also some “tricks of the trade” which I have seen:

some solo female RV-ers will place a pair of men’s workboots and an extra camp chair outside their RV;

A heavy-duty dog chain/collar hung up by the RV may offer a measure of security, especially combined with an audible “bark”;

Sitting a teddy bear with men’s cap or a cardboard cutout of a male (I have Sheldon Cooper from the TV show The Big Bang Theory) in the driver’s seat works for some. I don’t think this Sheldon could protect me, or the real Sheldon character either! LOL, sorry Jim Parsons!

Car alarms, emergency road assistance, HAMM and CB radios, On-Star or HUM diagnostics and service, AAA, etc. are all good options.

Safety is very important, but the fear is usually unwarranted or greatly exaggerated.  Above all, step outside of your comfort zone in a wise manner that keeps you safe but allows you to adventure beyond what most people live.  I find that many people who are negative about a solo female RV-er are speaking from a place of good intentions, even love, but misplaced…and sometimes even jealous or envious of your adventure while they feel stuck in their own lives.

 If you dream of traveling, or any other dream, use your resources to learn and plan well, but then step out and find your adventure!


What book are you reading now?

From my bookshelf…

“Though a straight line appears to be the shortest distance between two points, life has a way of confounding geometry.  Often it is the dalliances and the detours that define us.  There are no maps to guide our most important searches; we must rely on hope, chance, intuition, and a willingness to be surprised.”

Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart   by Gordon Livingston, M.D., 2004


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Tiny home versus Travel (RV) home

For the last few years, as I looked at the empty nest and realized my freedom from those wonderful years of raising a family, I thought long and hard about how I wanted to live. Definitely a simpler life with less stuff! I have never been one for housekeeping or gardening, and living solo gave me the opportunity to make my own choices, independent of anyone else’s opinions.

I love the Tiny homes that are springing up all over the US and around the world.  Looking at all the Pinterest and Facebook pictures really grabbed my attention.  I could easily see myself living in a small space, and those houses were so darn cute!!

The pro side of tiny homes was:

  • Living minimally, even off the grid completely
  • No rent or mortgage
  • Could be set up on someone’s “back forty” if permitted
  • Low cost to build
  • Could still work at my regular job and save $$$
  • Permanent resident
  • Available child care for grandkids
  • Not much change to lifestyle
  • Renovate a camper van for when I retired and then travel

The con side of tiny homes was:

  • Living in one place for _#_ years
  • Whose “back forty”could I use? What if they want to move?
  • Continue working the 9-5 job until retirement (5-7 years away)
  • Lots of towns zone against tiny homes
  • Living through more Northeastern winters — ugh!!!

The more I thought about staying in one place for a few more years and working, the less I wanted to invest in that option.

One of my responsibilities at work each day was to run the obituaries to match up anyone in the database who may have died. (Sorry if the term bothers you, but I hate the “passed away” euphemism.) So many people die before or when they reach retirement age.   What if I were to travel first, while I am younger and healthier, and then move into a tiny home when I was tired of traveling, or not so healthy, or whatever…if ever that were the case?

I started looking more into van camping as a full time RV-er.

The pros of RV camper van life were:

  • Freedom to move where I want when I want
  • Taking my own bed and “stuff” everywhere I go
  • Camping, which has always been a favorite activity
  • Visiting family and friends I haven’t been able to spend much time with
  • Seeing all the beauty and enjoying all the subcultures in America
  • Stealth boondocking (staying for free in someone’s driveway or residential area, BLM land, 24-hour store parking lot, rest area, truck stop, etc.)
  • No packing/unpacking when traveling
  • Stay as little or as long as desired in any one place, and ability to change my mind at the drop of a hat
  • Campgrounds can be found much cheaper than hotels or rent, even to stay for several months
  • Work can be done remotely, or work at a campground, etc.
  • Can still live off the grid, with the exception of gas to travel

The cons of the RV camper lifestyle were:

  • No longer an actual resident of my state
  • Finding remote work to support the lifestyle
  • Not seeing the local grandkids as often as I do now, and being available for child care/a break for mom & dad
  • Increased fossil fuel consumption, with gas prices a variable

Since this thought process was several years in the making, I used the time to head in the right direction – simplifying my life, getting rid of “stuff”, paying off debts, living on a cash basis, and taking some online classes to brush up skills to work remotely – writing copy, social media consulting, blog writing and affiliate marketing, virtual assistant, etc.

I also joined many Facebook groups having to do with RV living, and started following some blogs.  These were so helpful and I learned so much! I spent time visiting RV stores and considering what I liked/disliked about each style and size of RV.   I found so many single ladies of a similar (and older!) age were living the solo RV lifestyle and loving it! The camaraderie of the RV-ers, as well as their honesty about the good and bad of their chosen lifestyle, was of great benefit and echoed so many of my own thoughts.

In February when my apartment lease ended, I was still unsure of my final decision.  I had decided to take the first step anyway, and move into my car until I found a good old van to renovate and then live in that during the renovation period.  When I found a suitable van for less than $1000, I was overjoyed. This six-month transition saved me close to $7000, which I was then investing in the van and in a savings account to support whichever decision I made.  It would either be the funding for a tiny home or an emergency fund for traveling in an old van.  Either way, a win-win!

I found I did not miss the TV and cable at all, surprise, surprise! I felt such freedom in living with less possessions. I loved hearing the rain on the van roof and the wind in the trees.  I could look out the windows and see the moon and stars, and felt like I was already camping, even in the suburbs of Albany, New York! (I boondocked at my son’s house, parking the van in the shady trees in the side yard.)

I purchased a membership at Planet Fitness which allows me to use any of their facilities wherever I travel in the US.  I would wake up feeling like I had spent the night in a campground, drive to Planet Fitness to work out and shower and dress for the workday, drive to work…and then each night park back under the shady trees in my little camper van.  This system worked for me during the final six months of work.  No one at work knew I was living out of my car, then the van.  I charged my laptop, Kindle and I-phone at work, and was happily self-sufficient otherwise.

By the middle of summer, I decided that what I really wanted to do was work remotely with flexible hours as I traveled.  I had some minor health issues that forced me to work remotely for the last few months (thanks to a wonderful understanding manager), which was a good experience and confirmed that this was my best plan. I packed all my tiny home plans and supply lists into my storage and there they will stay until I decide I am done traveling.

I will be traveling on a shoestring in my little camper van.  We will see how it goes, but so far I really love this lifestyle!  I know it isn’t for everyone, but it is amazing to me how many people of every age are living the full time RV lifestyle already!  I can’t wait to meet some of them on the road or in a campground.

So this is my journey, and you’re welcome to follow along. I will be honest and as transparent as possible in sharing my story.  I hope you enjoy the blog posts, and maybe some of you will step out of your comfort zone and embrace this lifestyle also!  Or at least live vicariously through this and other folks who share their stories!

Scout — out!

What book are you reading now?

From the bookshelf…

“I looked to the trees.  They always calmed me.  The redwood grove stood like our own appointed guards; their trunks rose straight and solid from the land, their branches so large, we had seen wild turkeys perched in them….Our oaks were more like wise, arthritic grandparents. If you pulled up a chair and sat awhile and listened, you usually heard something useful.  The fruit trees were like our cherished aunties, wearing frilly dresses and an overabundance of perfume in the spring, then by summer, indulging us with their generosity, dropping apples and pears and apricots by the bucketfuls, more than we could ever eat, as if they were saying, Mangia! Mangia!”

The Underside of Joy, by Sere`Prince Halverson, 2012


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And the renovation goes on…and on…and on

It is now the end of August and I am almost ready to hit the road full time in my little camper van.

It has been an exciting month, with tendering my resignation from my job, after taking my last “vacation” down at Assateague Island, Maryland, where the wild ponies live.  That was amazing, by the way, camping in the dunes and waking up to see hoof prints right outside my tent door…

Hoof prints just outside my tent door – the wild ponies love to visit!
The sky at Assateague Island, Maryland

It was sad yesterday to say farewell to my terrific coworkers and a job I truly enjoyed, but it is time for me to head out.  The van still needs the insulation and walls screwed back in, ceiling (tin) attached, and cabinets installed.  While I am overseas visiting my daughter in South Korea in September, my son promises the work will be completed…thanks, Sean!!!

As you can see from the photo below, the interior is coming along. That wood floor is amazing – so happy with it! I have my layout all set, and am very content living full time in this small space. Now that I am no longer working, I can drop off work clothes/shoes to a Goodwill and make even more space for the few winter-ish clothes I am taking.  (Not many – I plan to be somewhere warm and dry all winter!!!)

Sean is installing the wood floor in the van — love it!
The side wall getting a new aqua marine vinyl covering – me and my staple gun are busy!

So I am officially homeless and unemployed…YAY! This just means I have no ties or debts to thwart my dream of traveling as the wind blows.  My only tie is to the hearts of people I love and will be visiting!!!  Right now, the “plan” is vaguely to:

  1. Fly to visit youngest daughter in South Korea for two weeks in September (my first overseas trip!)
  2. Spend time with my oldest son and family in western Virginia for a few weeks
  3. Drop by brother-in-law and family, and possibly some other friends, in the Carolinas
  4. Enjoy the magical world of Harry Potter at Universal Studios in Florida
  5. Head to Arkansas to visit a couple of brothers and family as well as an RV conference for worKamping at the end of October
  6. Travel slowly with lots of stops along the way over to Albuquerque, where my oldest daughter and her wife live
  7. Short trips to Taos and Santa Fe while staying in Albuquerque
  8. Thanksgiving with Tara and Morgan
  9. Start wintering in Quartzite, Arizona – living free on BLM (Bureau of Land Management) lands for a month or so
  10. Possibly fly back to New York for Christmas week
  11. Spending some time in the Austin, Texas area with all their great music and arts – and yes, visit Magnolia Store in Waco!
  12. Head towards Nashville to enjoy some more great music!

If anyone is at or close to any of these areas, send me a message and let me know if I may stop by for a visit on the way – so many folks I would love to see again!!!

As you can see, I tend to travel as I live – with a vague plan and destination, but definitely as “fly by the seat of your pants”!  If the traffic is busy to the left, I will turn to the right.  If there’s a storm brewing to the south, I will turn toward the north. If there’s no BML land or inexpensive campsite nearby, I will boondock at a truck stop, WalMart, or other such known boondocker site (Yes, I have an app for that!)

Thanks for joining me as I head out.  Will keep you posted with pictures and stories as I go along.  And hey, if you want to join me – well, grab some kind of vehicle and meet up with me anywhere…just remember, the passenger seat has been REMOVED from my van!! LOL

Scout — out!

What book are you reading now?

From the bookshelf…

“When you put your house in order, you put your affairs and your past in order, too….We should be choosing what to keep, not what we want to get rid of….Keep only those things that speak to your heart.  Then take the plunge and discard all the rest.”

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, 2014


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