The most frequently asked question of solo women RV-ers:
“But what about your SAFETY ?!?!?”
Personal safety is, of course, a very important issue. However, conversations with RV-ers both on social media and in person all come to the same conclusion:
Our best defense is common sense/intuition —
always being aware of your surroundings…
choosing wisely where to stop…
moving on if you feel “ummmm, doesn’t feel safe”…
keeping someone informed of where you are.
So what else can a gal do to stay safe? Personally, I carry on my key ring a small device that emits a 120 decibel alarm if I pull the pin, and a very bright LED flashlight with strobe. This is with me at all times.
I also have a Louisville Slugger (baseball bat) in my van.
Additionally, when any door is opened on the van, four LED strips light up the world inside my van — powerfully bright.
From extensive readings and interviews, I see that a few women carry a gun of some kind. If someone is licensed and trained, a firearm could be of benefit, but I know I personally do not want to drive around “armed and dangerous”! I also do not have a dog with me, or pet of any kind, although I know many women travel with canine protection. I have taken a defensive strategy class, and recommend that as well. Growing up with six brothers had taught me most of this already, but a good refresher class was part of my start-up strategy!
Vehicular safety is also an important facet of all RV-ers. Preventive maintenance is key, and saves an abundance of breakdowns and problems on the road, which can be particularly unsafe. Besides a full tool kit, fire extinguisher, a good spare tire, jack and flares, etc., I also have an emergency kit with water, protein, safety blanket, surgical and CPR masks, etc.
When parked at a rest stop or campsite, I lock my van doors from the inside and add a locking steel-corded bungee cord (actually bike lock cord) so the doors will not open if the lock is busted. Only the driver door can be entered with just the key.
Very few RV-ers have a story of when they were in an unsafe situation, and few have encountered violence of any kind. Media tends to portray our American world as full of violent crazies and while we recognize there are some out there, they are not usually encountered by RV-ers. Most solo female RV-ers have just used common sense, and never remained in a place where they felt unsafe, so the fear is reduced significantly with experience.
An excellent book recently recommended is The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. The emphasis on learning survival signals and trusting your instinct is fantastic! Passing on the recommendation to everyone!
A great protocol in traveling which I discovered in a Facebook group post, and now follow, is the 9-2-4 rule:
9) Leave your overnight location around 9 am (avoid those hurrying off to work in the morning and school buses);
2) drive in 2-hour increments with a break in-between so one doesn’t get over-tired;
4) arrive at your next destination by 4 pm — and if you feel unsafe, you have another hour or more of daylight to find another (safe) overnight place.
This usually has the RV-er traveling about 250-350 miles a day at an unhurried pace, with time to explore and relax.
Smartphone apps are abundant and provide great assistance on the road, especially with boondocking and destinations. Most travelers use a GPS, and apps like RV Parky, AllStays, RVovernight and Gas Buddy are terrific resources that are free to upload and use. There are many more apps that help a traveler plan and execute a safe trip.
While many folks like to plan ahead, there are a significant number of us who may have a general idea of where we want to go but we don’t plan much beyond today and perhaps tomorrow. By the time I pull onto the road in the morning, I usually have several options in mind for my next overnight destination. But since I am always ready to turn left instead of right, or detour to something I want to see along the way, those plans may change throughout the day. When I have parked for the night (by 4 p.m.) I send a text message of my location to my home base, my son and daughter-in-law in New York.
If stopping to hike (alone as that is how I travel), I will let my home base know the logistics of where I am, how long I expect to be hiking, etc. If I am hiking from a campground, I will let my campground neighbor know the same. NOTE: It is always a good idea to befriend a couple or several couples in your chosen campground, and also to let them know you’ll be gone from the campground for a while. Good neighbors will keep an eye on each other’s RVs and equipment.
There are also some “tricks of the trade” which I have seen:
some solo female RV-ers will place a pair of men’s workboots and an extra camp chair outside their RV;
A heavy-duty dog chain/collar hung up by the RV may offer a measure of security, especially combined with an audible “bark”;
Sitting a teddy bear with men’s cap or a cardboard cutout of a male (I have Sheldon Cooper from the TV show The Big Bang Theory) in the driver’s seat works for some. I don’t think this Sheldon could protect me, or the real Sheldon character either! LOL, sorry Jim Parsons!
Car alarms, emergency road assistance, HAMM and CB radios, On-Star or HUM diagnostics and service, AAA, etc. are all good options.
Safety is very important, but the fear is usually unwarranted or greatly exaggerated. Above all, step outside of your comfort zone in a wise manner that keeps you safe but allows you to adventure beyond what most people live. I find that many people who are negative about a solo female RV-er are speaking from a place of good intentions, even love, but misplaced…and sometimes even jealous or envious of your adventure while they feel stuck in their own lives.
If you dream of traveling, or any other dream, use your resources to learn and plan well, but then step out and find your adventure!
What book are you reading now?
From my bookshelf…
“Though a straight line appears to be the shortest distance between two points, life has a way of confounding geometry. Often it is the dalliances and the detours that define us. There are no maps to guide our most important searches; we must rely on hope, chance, intuition, and a willingness to be surprised.”
—Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart by Gordon Livingston, M.D., 2004
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